Last Friday my eldest finished her first year of Junior Kindergarten.
It’s a big accomplishment for her. She’s learnt a lot; made friends; grew-up a bit.
But, it’s also a big accomplishment for us.
WE survived our first year of school as parents.
Given that, I thought I’d dedicate a post to what we all learnt from kindergarten this year.
The Final Report Card
For a family that doesn’t go to church regularly, we ROCKED religion. My daughter developed a healthy curiousity for her faith; now leads us in grace before meals (which is a great addition to meal-time/family time generally); and has been genuinely interested when we have gone to mass. I’ve written about this aspect of our year previously on this hop. If you are interested, just click on the pretty picture to your left.
2. Social and Personal Development
So, I have to say? The stuff I was most worried about, didn’t happen. I was worried she wouldn’t make friends (she did); I was worried she’d have “an accident” at school (she didn’t); and I was worried she might get bullied (she briefly did – on the bus by older kids – but the school was FABULOUS in dealing with it once reported and by December she was getting in trouble for hanging out with the older kids – her buddies – at the back of the bus).
The stuff to work on?
- Autonomy – ie: finding appropriate strategies to resolve issues I am facing
- Finishing what I start
- Appropriately expressing my emotions
Can I just say I find this a bit of a tall order for 4-year-olds? Heck! If I managed to master this, I’d be further along in life too… I might even make these my personal development goals. Just sayin’.
3. Francais
My husband is Francophone and I’m Anglophone. We are sending our children to French school because, like they say “L’anglais s’attrape.” You “catch” English – but learning French, particularly in a minority language setting where it isn’t used by everyone, takes more effort.
I was stressed about this one – both for my daughter and myself as the Anglophone parent. I was worried she’d be behind. And I was worried I wouldn’t get the “nuance” to properly participate in school life.
My husband has spoken to her uniquely in French since birth. We sent her to full-year half-day French preschool last year in preparation for school.
But we were concerned because while she clearly understood French, she didn’t really start speaking it…
…until about November of last year.
The teachers rang early alarm bells about her language skills; suggesting we send her for an ear test (they’re fine – but we went anyway); and have been offering extra help in class all year (which is amazing).
She still isn’t where they think she should be – but we’re over the moon with her progress. Full sentences, description, you name it. We’ll keep speaking French over the summer so she doesn’t lose it.
I also suspect it isn’t just about French. I think she’d have also struggled in English. Letter recognition, syllables, writing … she’s not there yet.
They also offered homework suggestions over the summer to help. And we’ll work on it.
As for me? I think a year of communicating with teachers in French has helped my French skills too! And I know they appreciate the effort.
5. Mathematics
Math sucks. Can we just move on?
No?
Okay – here’s an area that is neither my husband’s nor my forte. And, as we discovered, it’s perhaps not our daughter’s either.
But we invested the time – partners in education – and signed up for Family Math Nights in the Winter to try to help with this lagging skill set.
Not a clue if that specifically helped, but she can now count to 14 and classify objects.
She also enjoys eating Teddy Grahams (after putting them in small numbered groups and making patterns, of course).
It’s coming.
6. Science and Technology
Her report card informs me that while she rocks at recycling and can identify most of the seasons; she has not yet discovered new energy sources. Given she doesn’t quite have the fine motor or language skills to fill out the form to apply for an NSERC grant to fund her alternative fuel research yet, I’m not too flustered about this one. I suspect I’m missing something in the translation here, but she comes from a long line of engineers on my father’s side; we live at the Science and Tech museum during the holidays; and she’s naturally curious.
7. Social Studies
While her report card tells me she shouldn’t currently be your “go to” person in an emergency and can’t name the jobs people do in the community, I suspect this has more to do with lack of interest than understanding. Considering she managed to get invited to a few birthday parties and master school bus politics after a rough start that could have ended much differently without a bit of adult intervention, I’m not too worried.
8. Physical Education and Health
As a parent, I learnt that no matter how much you slave over providing healthy and varied school lunches, the school is still going to send home copies of the Canada Food Guide and “suggestions” for how you can do better. I was quite proud that I managed to take that one a bit less personally than my husband (who had been on lunch making duty during the week in question).
I also learnt (again, repeatedly, thanks to multiple notes home) something I’ve known and been working on since my daughter was under two. Coordination and gross motor are a challenge.
For what it’s worth? They were for me too. I was the last kid to learn how to hop on one foot in my class. But by Grade 6? I was the best skipper in the class. She’ll get there when she gets there. Until then, we keep signing her up for dance and do lots of unstructured sports and swimming.
9 Art
Here’s where challenges cross multiple fields – even at four-years-old. The same fine motor skill issues that impact ability to write also impact artistic ability.
But as a mom? In the past two months her colouring has improved SO MUCH that I managed not to freak out at the list of non-acquired skills here. She’s suddenly made a jump. Better crayon holding control; more in the lines; longer attention span to finish a picture. Her daycare provider is committed to colouring parties this summer. And improvement there will lead to letters, scissor skills etc….
Aside from what’s already listed above, what else did we take away as parents?
Well! After navigating our first year daily lunch and bus-making (we didn’t miss the bus EVER), multiple lists of instructions home, parent-teacher interviews, weekly show and tell homework, and the odd conference call about how our child was (and wasn’t) progressing, we learnt that while she will struggle with some things, the teachers have the very best interests of our child at heart and work hard to help her succeed.
She might not be able to write her name, but she’s happy, social and likes school.
And we rocked the bus like nobody’s business!
There’s not much more I was looking for success-wise out of her (and our) first year of school.
It’s Monday, so I’m linking up with Meredith over at her weekly Manic Monday Parenting hop.
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Until next time!
Reese Speaks said:
Congrats on making it through your first year of JK! This didn’t exist when my first child started going to school many moons ago. My second will be starting JK in 2015, so we’re already looking forward to her going.
I think that all kids learn at their own rate. You have nothing to worry about. I bet that next school year, she’ll be the chattiest one in class. As for colouring within the lines, well, when was that ever fun to do?!
I hope that you all enjoy an amazing summer!
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Louise said:
Thanks so much! I know we don’t have too much to be concerned about – but school is certainly an adjustment with all the evaluation and measures.
I agree that kids do learn at their own pace – but it doesn’t stop you from worrying a bit when you see your child behind on certain skills!
That said it was a great year for all of us – I’m sure yours (and you) will love it when you get there 🙂
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Reese Speaks said:
Thanks, Louise! I’m just afraid she’ll try to run the school! 🙂
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Louise said:
And what would be wrong with that? Encourage leadership qualities in our girls from a young age, right? 😉
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Reese Speaks said:
LOL! I guess you’re right. She has no problem with telling anyone what she thinks! I like that she’s so fierce already!
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Eli Pacheco said:
1. That first year is something else. And middle school parents looked so OLD. Now that I’m a high school parent, it’s funny. They don’t look so old anymore.
2. I love that you have stuff to improve on. I don’t think it’ can ever be too early to think this way. And to be involved in it.
3. I so wish my parents had spoken Spanish in the house when I was a kid. They did, but only when they didn’t want us to understand what they were saying. If they’d taught me then, maybe I’d know more than food names and bad words in Spanish today.
*-Glad the Manic Monday linkup brought me here today. But I’d have made my way over here anyway.
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Louise said:
Yeah re: #1 it was mostly the … structure that killed us. Our daughters a bit of a free spirit so, despite having done preschool and various lessons the idea that she had to sit still and focus on one thing for a while was a totally foreign concept.
On #2 – agreed. I think a few summer goals are good. We’re gonna play Alphabet Bingo until she learns all those letters and she’s gonna like it! Or, maybe we’ll try to find ways to encourage learning without sucking all the joy out of it…. I’ll see what the book suggests.
3. As for languages – that would have been great to learn young which is why we’re doing it here. I was in French Immersion all through school and STILL don’t feel fully bilingual. I want our kids to be. I also want them to be able to talk to their dad’s side of the family in their first language.
– and as for visiting – thanks! I’m still planning a post on swimming through hurricane Andrew when I get a moment…
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Eli Pacheco said:
That’s going to be one entertaining read … I’ll be honored to post it! Did we ever talk about a post date? Email me!
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Louise said:
I’d love if you posted it! I’m currently procrastinating from studying for an exam I’m taking next Monday – but I could aim to write it up after that? First week in July should be a nice week for a hurricane, right?
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Eli Pacheco said:
I’ll send you an email tomorrow – I got your tweet!
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Nicola Young said:
Wow that’s one detailed assessment of the first year at school. It’s amazing how closely our children are studied these days isn’t it? My son has almost finished his first year. We call it reception class. I doubt we will get such a detailed report. We usually get something that indicates if they are average, below or above for different categories and a number and letter that I can never understand! All I know is that next year he won’t be the baby anymore!
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Louise said:
Is reception for 4-year-olds?
Honestly, I think grading would be easier. It might “hurt” but I’d like to know if my kid’s in the middle, lower or upper end of her class. It would give me a more quantifiable measure of how she’s doing as compared to her peers. At this stage you take it with all the caveats that they develop at different speeds – but it would be nice to know – and it would help me to rank how seriously to take different pieces of feedback.
Example? The teachers kind of stressed me out with all the “constructive” feedback and tips on the language front earlier this year. I then figured out – because of a passing comment – that a number of other kids were getting similar extra help too – that would have been nice to know earlier (ie: that while yes she needs help our case wasn’t exceptional).
As for your baby not being a baby anymore – bittersweet milestones :). I’ll be sad when I can’t “dance” my youngest to sleep anymore. She’s getting heavy so that’s coming soon.
Maybe I’ll start doing weights again to delay that inevitable a wee bit 😉
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Nicola Young said:
Yes, a quantifiable measure does ease understanding. They tell you where your child’s is against the national average. But the system is changing here and I don’t know how they will do it next year.
Reception is aged 4-5. The kids stay at the same school from aged 4 up to age 11, so they really do look like babies when they start!
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Roaen said:
what a great first year in school! I’m impressed at the no-missed bus record! 🙂
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vintage1973regina said:
Please, please, please promise yourselves that you will keep the attitude that you have now about your child’s development as she gets older. The pressure can steal our children’s (and our) joy, don’t let it!
And thank you AGAIN for the laugh – her NSERC grant?!? – cracking me up!
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Louise said:
Thanks 🙂 As for trying to keep a balanced attitude re: school and development – I try. I’m competitive by nature, so it’s hard. And I suspect my daughter is NOT competitive by nature, so I’ll have to figure out the fine line between encouraging without strong-arming her into learning!
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