Hi! I’m Louise. Welcome to my blog. That’s me with my eldest a couple years back. I love the water, so I figured the photo works.
I live in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada.
I’m married with two daughters: a 6-year-old and a 3-year-old.
I have a Journalism degree and a Political Science degree.
I work full-time for the Federal Government.
I like to write, so: blog hobby.
Random Fun Parenting Fact: It took me five days to do this page because I wrote it under the same circumstances as my bloggy birth story. Namely, amidst the constant interruptions (I mean through the multi-tasking with love) of two kids, Caillou and husband in the background.
About Blogging as Me
It’s the eternal question, yes? Use your real name or no? I’ve blogged before under a pen name and while it does give you some freedom, after a while I found it limiting. Also, shortly before starting this blog I read an article (which I. REALLY. WISH. I’D. BOOKMARKED) about how women can tend to spend a large part of their early adult life acting the way they think people want them to act; doing what they think will please; and not doing what they might actually want to do for fear of appearing silly, or being judged. My blog may be silly at times. Which, I think, is okay. It’s me being me. In my name. My small stand, if you will. I struggle with the balance of what and how much to voice. But I like the possibility and the challenge of finding my place and saying my piece as me.
Okay! So now that you have a sense of who I am and where I’m coming from, let’s move on to the blog:
About Baby Gates Down
My total lack of a real “About Me” page until now has prompted numerous (okay, 4) questions about the blog name.
Here’s the origin story.
I’d hit the point that I wanted to start blogging again when our baby gate broke. At this stage, our youngest was about 10 months old.
That’s her, above, at the top of the stairs: the scene of the crime, if you will. You can just sense the trauma she went through about the whole thing, right?
So we were literally, baby gates down!
If she was our first child, I suspect we would have rushed out and bought a new one. Holding her close until the house was secure, once again.
But she’s our second. And we live in a bungalow. So the only problem area is the stairs to the basement off the kitchen. I of course think baby gates are an important safety feature when kids start getting mobile. However, ours had been mobile for a while by this stage and pretty cautious near the stairs already. So instead of rushing out to buy a new one, we just watched her more closely. We stopped her a few times from going down, and then she figured out she shouldn’t and would just stop at the top of the stairs and wait to be taken down. Then, as of about 14 months, she figured out how to get down them herself on her bum (with supervision).
So What’s With the Crying Dolly?
The name is also about how overwhelming parenting can be sometimes. In July 2010 New York Magazine came out with a piece on parenting entitled “Why Parents Hate Parenting” and subtitled it “All Joy and No Fun.” I never forgot it, because there are moments where that phrase has summed it up so incredibly accurately for me. All joy and no fun: those moments where everything feels out of control and you just want to let them do whatever. So the blog name is an homage to those moments when you honestly consider just giving up. As I was searching FreeDigitalPhotos.net for inspiration the evening I set up the blog, Theeradech Sanin’s photo of the crying dolly just jumped out at me as the perfect image for those moments of pure parental despair.
Also, as the mother of two daughters, dollies figure prominently chez-nous.
And, finally, in answer to the “should you blog as you?” question, before I hit publish, I tend to look at little judging, desolate dolly, and ask: “Should I?” And if desolate dolly looks up, smiles and nods, I turn the computer off, go to bed, wait until morning, re-read, and post then, and only then, if I’m still of the same opinion.
Lastly, Baby Gates Down as a blog name works because we are leaving the baby years. Our youngest is now firmly a toddler. So we’ve packed up the bouncy swing, the exersaucer and the (broken) baby gate and entered the next stage.
So this blog is currently a bit of a mix of bringing you along for that ride, and just giving me a space to write and have some creative fun. Which is something I was missing before I started the blog.
Thanks for visiting!