When people ask me what years I remember, nineteen sticks out for many reasons.
It was the year I started university at Carleton.
I wanted to be a journalist. They had a journalism program. And they offered me a great scholarship.
So I became a Raven and threw myself into campus life.
I bonded with my frosh group. I lined up for the campus bar on Wednesday nights. I learnt to like beer because that was what was most freely available. I skipped class when a fourth was needed for Euchre at the coffee shop.
I memorized news trivia for our endless pop quizzes in journalism class.
I studied like crazy for those quizzes because – like so many Carleton Journalism students – I remember that first day of class when I was told: “Look to your left. Look to right. Only one out of the three of you will be here next year.”
They admit 300 into first year Journalism. And 100 into second year.
I graduated with a journalism degree. And I can STILL spell Netanyahu (because misspelling names was an automatic “F”).
I wrote bad essays in first year Political Science because no one had ever taught me to write an essay.
I took first year computer science to boost my average and had a male friend extensively help me with the assignment to set up a website. Given I’ve toyed with web stuff ever since, and, well, am blogging away here today, I’d like to thank both that course and Pat for lighting the way.
I ran screaming through the university’s underground tunnels after bar nights with my girlfriends as we all squealed like pigs and called them “squig peals” and thought we were hilarious.
I broke up with my high school boyfriend (even though that was going to be forever) and dated.
I dated someone who loved Tupac.
And so remember when Tupac was shot in September 1996.
I clipped the story from our NEWSPAPER so he could hang it on the wall of his dorm.
That relationship lasted about a month. He married another girl from our frosh group.
Later that year, while contemplating who he was dating (neither me nor her) while driving in an ice storm, I collided with a cop. While my parents TO THIS DAY do not believe me, I’m still convinced it was her fault. Either way, given my numerous replays of the event, I clearly remember everything, including my “grrr” thoughts towards said boy. Distracting enough to collide with police? I don’t think so. But a good lesson either way on not dwelling on stuff you can’t change.
I briefly experimented with Greek Life and joined the only sorority on campus with a drag queen as a member. Her shows were awesome. Sorority life was less my thing. And the founding class of my specific sisterhood imploded the summer after first year shortly after volunteering at the lost kids booth at the Tulip Festival where (and I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried) we picked up the guys from the lollipop stand and their friend the security guard. About a month of completely unnecessary drama ensued.
But my main memory from my first year at university?
I joined the Varsity Swim Team.
I’d swum competitively until I was 15, but quit then when I realized I’d have to train about 10 times a week to just make Nationals. I was never going to be exceptional, so figured there were better things to do with my time.
But five times a week to, well, compensate for first-year university lifestyle? Worked for me.
I swam faster than I had at 15. I was even fastest backstroker in the region that year (because all the better ones went to UofT or MAC). I was female swimmer of the year and team captain the following year.
I met teammates I am still close to. Training and travel together will do that. I still remember 24+ hours in a car with my coach and two teammates to training camp in Florida. And I’ll never forget the dive motel we stayed in. The Lamplighter (Last) Resort Motel. The other university team took one look at it and left. We moved in for the week, removed the clothing left by the previous occupants, dealt with the blocked sink in our kitchen by removing the crack pipe from the pipes below, and started training.
We also bonded over the horrible press coverage we got from our university paper who assigned a student journalist to our team who, as far as any of us could figure, had a crush on our star athlete. Suffice to say by the end of the year I couldn’t take it and, well, expressed myself:

For what it’s worth, the paper also chronically misspelled one of our team member’s names – confusing his last name with our star’s last name. It amused me to no end when they edited my letter to misspell said name.
I heard that my letter made her cry. I mostly hope, going forward, I made her fact check and not be, well, unnecessarily harsh in order to get a better story. We had an encounter at the student bar a few weeks after my letter was published. It went better than expected.
Which brings me back to the bar – Oliver’s – where I think I’d like to (almost) end tonight with a little ditty that sums up and makes me think of first year. I certainly remember dancing to it. Here’s Gwen, back when she was just a girl:
And by almost done, I mean that all of the above adds up to my happily still being involved with my university. I started as Chapter President of the Swim Team Alumni in 2007 and still proudly hold that post and avidly follow how the team is doing. I am also now more broadly involved as Vice-President of the overall Alumni Association. Here I am a few years ago posing with Pedro the Panda, who is a very big deal in Varsity Football-land here in Ottawa.
This post is written for Finish the Sentence Friday, which is a lovely Blog Hop I contributed to a few times in the past.
Tonight’s prompt brought such a rush of memory that I couldn’t NOT post. Do check out the others linking up.
Um, you had quite the experiences you were nineteen! Who! You collided with a cop? For real? What kind of punishment did you receive? ANd thanks for the No Doubt flashback. Funny, with Gwen all over the news:)!
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It was a good year! And no punishment for the collision. They tried to charge me but we had a lawyer intervene and that was the last I heard about it. I tend to think that slightly backs up my “it wasn’t my fault” stance. Briefly, she had her flashers on, but no siren. Came to her red light and stopped. Mine was green. She had her flashers on, no siren. She proceeded through the red assuming I’d stop for her. I assumed she’d stay stopped at the red because she had stopped. Given icy conditions, we had a very slow motion collision.
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“But why would you put your kids in swim club? There’s so much else they could be doing over the summer.” This. Your post is the reason I did. Both my two are in college and swimming is still a huge part of their loves. Love this post. Off to share.
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Glad this hit home a bit with you. Swimming has always been a big part of my life and I love that my parents made sports a priority for us growing up! My girls are already in lessons and have tried out a few other sports as well. I hope they find something they love as well.
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Great post! I have many find find memories of Carleton U, especially Oliver’s and Roosters when they were the place to be on campus. I’ve always regretted not joining a varsity when I had the chance — I didn’t think I was good enough even when asked to join — but I got as much out of my time there as possible. I was even at the Panda game when the stadium broke. But that’s another story.
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Thanks Chris! And always great to find another Carleton grad. The stadium collapse was before my time but I’ve heard about that. Can’t imagine what that must have been like. As for varsity sport, I’m very grateful for the experience and happy to hear you also got as much as possible out of your time there. If you haven’t been back in recent years you wouldn’t recognize Oliver’s and Roosters 🙂
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The Oliver’s I remember is no more, that much I know. Represents a needed shift on campus life as a result of a younger cohort and changing attitudes toward what amounted to binge drinking every Wednesday night by too many young adults.
As for the infamous Panda game, it was the same weekend as massive street party / near riot at Queen’s homecoming. I was at both.
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Things certainly have changed as far as the amount of places where you can drink on campus and the culture around alcohol. Roosters went dry about 10 years back (?? time blurs) and the Bree’s is no more. Orientation week is also dry given the younger age of first-year students now. But Oliver’s, while smaller and with a face-lift, is still going strong. Big night is now Thursday :).
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so much of life around us and in front of this at that point. I don’t think I realized it at the time. I love the writer timeline you have in this period – and where it set your course, for here.
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Looking back it’s all the possibilities about life before you at that point which is so exciting. I mentor students now and it’s exciting – and refreshing – to see the world again from their perspective.
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It’s hard for me to remember 19!
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Wow 19 was a huge year for you! Congratulations on being in the 1/3 who made it and graduated with a journalism degree! I love that you wrote for the paper in response to the reporter who kept messing up all of the facts. And swimming! So cool that you continue to be involved. My son had swimming this morning. I hope he will always love it as much as he does now. So glad that you linked up with Finish the Sentence!
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Swimming is awesome! Truly a lifelong sport. Both my kids are in lessons as well. Glad your son is enjoying his and I hope it leads to a life loving and being confident and comfortable around water!
And glad I linked up too – I “creep” your topics, but haven’t linked up in ages. I LOVED this one though… I’ll try to do it more often.
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Wow about the cop! Although it was icy, right? Scary.
When I was 19, I still hadn’t declared a major. I did that at age 20 – journalism too! And then I had to complete my major in just a bit over a year. It got me off writing for.. five years.. but I’m BACK.
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Yes – it was icy. As for journalism, I never became a journalist and realized in 3rd year of my program that I didn’t want to be one. I enjoyed writing, not journalism. Two very different beasts.
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Nice memories!
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Louise – loved this page in your diary! So many lifechanging moments turning 19! I totally get it about the rush of memories you “could not post” – I had the same dilemma because I let myself write – and then mercilessly hacked it down to what I finally did post! 🙂
So wonderful to still be in touch with the alma mater and buddies from back then!
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Thanks very much for the kind comment – and yes – like you there was much more I could have written :).
As for staying I touch – one of the benefits of still being in the same town! That certainly helps.
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