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I know it’s a multi-meaning term.
2004 Football Movie (which I loved). 2006 TV series (which I entirely missed?! Hello? Netflix?!).
And in my list of ten weekly thankful?
I quite literally mean Friday Night Lights. My husband and I were getting our four and almost two-year-old ready for bed when a thunder and lightning storm broke.
Because it was warm, instead of going to bed, we all went out on the porch to watch the storm. We were warm in our sweaters and rain boots; and dry under the porch.
We sat in comfort; snuggled; and watched the lightning; and listened for the thunder (thankful #1).
We counted how far (far!) the storm was.
Our kids ran in and out of the house for about an hour.
It was well after 9:00pm when we finally got them to bed.
Before that, we had played hide and seek/throw them on the bed as a family for a good hour (thankful #2). Given the overtime my husband has been working this week, it was fun to spend silly time together as a family.
He’s been working so much overtime because his coworker’s father was first ill, then passed away. There are only the two of them in the office and we know him well. My heart goes out to him and his family. I’m glad we’ve been able to adjust and make things work for the past three weeks to help him deal with the whole situation and spend the time he needs. And, selfish as it is, I’m so thankful for my parents good health, because – while I don’t think you are ever ready to lose a parent – I know I’m really not ready yet (thankful #3).
In mixed and weird related thoughts, I’m thankful (odd thankful) that my husband has already been through this loss so he can be so helpful to others in our circle when they experience it (thankful #4). That said, I wish I’d had the opportunity to meet my father-in-law. And I wish he’d met his grandkids. I would have loved to know him and his grandchildren would certainly have loved to know him.
Given my husband’s new work commitments to cover-off, I’ve stepped it up on the home front and – honestly? – have been thankful for the solid reason to have to leave the office. I had the energy to go swimming with the kids and my mom on Tuesday and we even had time to hang at the park before dinner one day this week (thankful #5).
It ain’t just this week – but every week – that I’m thankful for my mom (thankful #6). This week? She helped by coming swimming with the girls. Next week? She’ll babysit so I can make an after work meeting. Beyond physical availability? She “gets” my eldest on a level I really don’t play at. They play “tiger” together. It’s an elaborate “make it up as you go along” imaginary play romp with plot development to rival Vampire Diaries or Gossip Girl. I can’t keep up. But my mom? She’s got that.
I’m beyond thankful and beyond honoured that my husband and I were asked by my brother and his wife to be the Godparents to our brand new nephew (thankful #7). In true “Hayes” tradition, he was born last week, and we’re baptising him in early June so he can fit into the baptismal dress that multiple generations of our family have been baptised in. I dutifully cleaned it and passed it along after our girls were baptised. I’m also thankful that my meeting next Wednesday evening was cancelled because that’s when baptismal prep is happening at the church. I’m not one to pause often and consider God’s greater plan, but that worked out nicely.
I’m thankful for an okay week at work that could have gone differently (thankful #8). Work has been difficult lately for a combination of reasons. An additional challenge was added last week. I’m thankful for my colleagues.
I’m thankful for spirited daughters (thankful #9). I know I should lecture them when they “misbehave” as measured by the standards of those I charge with their care (and I do – because I realize I’m sharing the raising of my children with those I entrust to care for them while I work and we all need to understand the rules of the society we live in), but I’m mostly thankful they need lecturing (if that makes sense?). My daycare provider (forever thankful for her) sent me a message today to tell me my eldest got a “warning” on the bus for not sitting even though she was told over and over by the bus driver to do so. She was previously scolded this year for not staying in her seat and moving to the back (where the older kids are). Given we had a bullying issue with older kids very early this year on the bus, while I gave her a stern talk about safety and listening to those in charge, I couldn’t help but rejoice a bit at her obvious (now) comfort in her environment.
And my youngest? At 21 months and female, in a largely 4+ year-old and male home care, apparently she started hitting and kicking this week. Not acceptable. Granted. She also bit me tonight. Which was equally non acceptable. We dealt with that promptly and she understood it was wrong. We’ll deal with the fact that hitting at daycare is wrong. That said, I can’t help but think she’s trying to figure out how to “stake her ground” and not be pushed about by a group of (wonderful and well-intentioned) older kids. We need to teach her how to do it. But I can’t help envisioning her just slightly as Gizmo vs. kids twice her size in the battle for cookies/attention/time on the slide/whatever. We’ll dissuade the hitting. But the fact that she’s doing it? Almost makes me happy in that it reassured me she won’t be a push-over. #badparent&okwithit
Finally? I’m thankful for time with my girls this week (thankful #10). The thought is a double, but the instances are not. I’m thankful for reading the Hungry Caterpillar with both of them tonight before bed. I’m thankful that, despite the
judgement from opinions of fellow shoppers (whole other post I should do), I can (in my opinion) successfully grocery shop with two kids under five and end the experience just fine (Performance measure: no one injured, dead, or crying). Despite unsolicited voiced concerns by other patrons, no child fell out of a cart; no child stole any gum or candy; and no child was permanently injured via “red welt” from a banana sticker they enjoyed pasting on and ripping off of their cheek).
On this same point I am thankful for weekly movie night with my girls. My 4-year-old was determined that we rent Pocahontas this week. So we watched it last night (and will memorize it prior to returning it next Thursday).
I have to admit, I do a bit of tweeting as I watch Disney with the girls, because I’m curious what others have to say on the movies we’re watching (Aside: huge fan base out there for Disney Tarzan). But here’s the tweet I noticed for Pocahontas:
So, aside from the fact that I intend to look into the whole 11-year-old-28-year-old dynamic (because …yeah) I figure this is one of many conversations I can have with my girls, based on their having watched – and remembered – this film, when they’re older. Until then? I’m rather hoping they embrace the message of the following song, which really, is to appreciate and try to understand those different from yourself, and then go out into the world and spread the openness and acceptance of others that is innate to who you are and how you understand the world is and should be:
This is my Ten Things of Thankful Post this week as part of Lizzi’s Blop Hop. Please check out the others here:
Achieving Clarity said:
A good list, but the Godparents one was the one that really caught my eye. What an honor!
I was really excited when they asked! It’ll be nice to have a God son, given we have two girls. It’ll be an excuse to learn about “boy toys” 😉 And have a role in guiding him and being a part of his life (of course!)
What a great list! Sorry for your friends loss but I get what you said about not being ready and your hubs ability to understand. ..all true.
Wow that school bus thing really resolved!!! AWESOME! Your other will not be having problems there!!! Haha! Im with you!
Yeah – I can’t help but feel like a bit of a bad mom when I get the notes back about her misbehaviour on the bus and my first thought is happiness that she’s made friends rather than annoyance that she’s misbehaving. Of course, then I put my game face on for the “talkin’ to”.
Janine Huldie said:
Wonderful list and just so glad that you had mostly all good things to share this week, especially that first one to take pleasure in even a thunderstorm is amazing and truly shows it is the little things that we may take for granted that can make all the difference. Have a great weekend now and wishing you a Happy another’s Day, as well 🙂
Thanks so much! And agreed re: time for the simple stuff – it really was a great night of just simple stuff. We need to do it more. Today I had them “help” me clean the backyard, so lots of outdoor time again!
I fondly remember sitting in the garage with my dad watching a storm roll in. Good for you, letting the kids stay up to watch with you.
Very exciting to be asked to be a godparent.
I worked with a woman from England when I taught fifth grade. I was floored to hear the differences in what I knew about Pocahontas and what the English knew. And that was before Disney ever made a movie to further muddle things.
Go Disney Go! 😉 It’s funny, when my first daughter was still an infant, I dutifully read “Cinderella Ate My Daughter” and was determined I’d raise them in a non-princess environment where we talked about how things aren’t just what you see in the movies. Now that I’m “in” it, I think that part mostly comes later. I was mainly excited that she specifically wanted to see Pocahontas, as opposed to another round of Barbie Entertainment.
Listening to the song while I respond.
The part about your meeting next Wednesday made me smile wryly – that’s so much the kind of thing which might happen, almost by coincidence, to allow you to attend the prep class.
I’m not glad your husband lost his dad, but I’m glad he’s willing to use his experience to support your friend (and others) – that’s kind of the same thing I’m trying to do, and I admire his caring spirit to do this.
I’m glad you all stayed up late and watched the thunderstorm. That sounds amazing, and an experience your children might remember for a while as one of those cherished moments in childhood. Good for you.
As for the hitting, I think I can see your point in being glad it’s happening. There is good, even in ostensible negatives, sometimes. I’m glad you’re not raising pushovers 😀 That’s a good thing.
My husband has actually been quite fabulous with another one of our good friends when he lost his dad a few years ago. He has a great way of knowing what to say in those difficult times. He’s good at things like that anyway, but I know having gone through it reflects on how he talks about it, and tries to be there and actively supportive, to others struggling through that loss.
As for the thunderstorm, generally trying to spend more time outside (and less in front of the TV) now that it’s warmer here, but it really was lovely to watch.
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He sounds like a star 🙂
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Wow. A 21 month old. You have your hands full. How wonderful your mother is young and can help out with the children. Of course, I’m a bit older than you so figures that my mother is older. I miss having her younger self — or just am sad the years have ticked away.
I’m certainly thankful for the good health of my parents. They are both in their mid-60s and still in very good health. Heck – my mom exercises more than I do, so it’s likely they are in better health than me 🙂 But yes, the amount of active involvement with my kids is wonderfully appreciated. I’ll miss it when this stage ends.
Melanie at My Ottawa Life said:
Love your train of thought type of list this week. I’ve been thinking lately about personality a lot lately as my little guy (13 months) is starting to show his. Just the idea that boys are rambunctious and girls are sweet and quiet, and I like that your girls are spirited (especially since you channel it with talks about behaviour).
I’d like to hear about grocery shopping too! I often go with my mom – yay for moms!
Yeah – I tried a different approach to the post this week – so glad you liked it!
As for personalities and how boys and girls are “suppose” to act, I spend a lot of time thinking about it. It’s interesting having two girls though in that I can see the different personalities of the two and know it’s just that: personality. Because the parenting and the daycare influences are the same on both. My eldest is definitely more “girly” than my youngest, who I think naturally has a more forceful personality. I love watching it change as they get older.
As for the groceries – I may do a post – but I need to figure out how to do it with the right tone. Basically, its dealing with unsolicited “advice” which is really criticism from others at the grocery store as I try to shop and keep two kids under control.
Lightning… I miss it so much and a great thing to be thankful for. Glad your hubs could pay forward the comfort he was given.
Spirited kids… I’ve had three and they’ve all made me a better person. “Iron sharpens iron…” In those moments I remind myself-can’t have sharp iron without a few sparks.
I’d never heard that saying before re: iron and sparks. Nice!
I love a good thunderstorm, meaning the kind that has rumbly bumbly thunder, not sharp crashes, and no tornadoes.
You’ve got a couple of spunky girls there! Good! I’ll take spunk over doormat any day.
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I’m reminded today that I need to stop by more often.
Good post today Louise. Thank you for sharing on so many different levels:)
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Sandy Ramsey said:
I love thunderstorms and this time of year here, we get our share. You sure do have your hands full, don’t you? And I’m really interested in the post about Pocahontas. I will be looking that one up.
I have to admit it was a bit deeper than what I usually find as I peruse what people are saying on Twitter about our Disney movie choice of the week! As for busy – as always – but it was a mostly good busy this week.
what an extraordinary post. I actually cried at the video, As we grew up where I lived surrounded by so called American Indians, and learned from my mother what nature REALLY was, and were always taught to be empowered (which is what you are teaching your daughters) I salute you. You are very busy right now, and yet able to pause and be thankful and take this time to teach us, I appreciate your wonderful entry. jean
Thank you so much for the kind comment! I must admit on Aboriginal issues generally, I am pretty uneducated. Where I live in Canada, the influence is less than in other areas of the country. I tried to begin educating myself on Aboriginal policy during my last maternity leave and struggled through one book. It was enough to teach me it would take a lot more than that to begin to figure out the histories.
I’ve always had a sneaking appreciation for that song, even though the movie is so maligned (and rightfully so).
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Kristi Campbell - findingninee said:
wow the time on the porch watching the storm while postponing bedtime sounds amazing and wonderful – I LOVE moments like that so much. Every time it storms here, even when it’s too wet to go outside, I grab my son and have him watch the rain because awesome!!
I also can appreciate that you’re thankful and also not for your husband’s loss so that he can help other’s through theirs. My husband’s mother passed away a few summers ago and it’s given me – and him – and all of us – such a bigger perspective on it all. Happy Mother’s Day!
Thank you so much for your kind comment! And the rain – watching, listening, smelling, whatever – I love it. I like falling asleep hearing it and leaving the window open a bit so I can hear it better.
A belated Happy Mother’s Day to you too! And sorry to hear about your husband’s loss, but I understand the point about perspective.