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Graphic from the Quiet Muse – who does wonderful art.
February 20. The day has finally arrived!
Well, in the east, anyway. It’s still February 19th over here.
But we’re one world.
So today, on UN World Day of Social Justice, over #1000 Bloggers will flood the Internet with GOOD and post about compassion.
I wrote on the genesis of the idea here. But to summarize:

The awesome Serins from Serins Sphere did this poster. Her art moves me.
And bloggers spread the word. I read Lizzi’s post and, like others, posted my own. Then others found mine and so on. It’s been personally uplifting to see others bloggers I love read my post and commit to posting. Regina at Vintage 1973. Clare at Clare Flourish. Brenda at Friendly Fairy Tales. I love to think each of us, and 1000s of others, are each out there constructively thinking about how to bring a bit more compassion into the world.
Given compassion has been constantly in the back of my mind since signing up, I’ve been seeing and participating in small moments of compassion more consciously in the past month.
Then Tuesday morning, it was easily below -30 Celsius with wind chill. I had just left for work and was driving onto the main street in my ‘hood when I saw a woman running like crazy for the bus.
I admit my first thought was: Shit, I’m going to get stuck behind the bus.
But no. Despite the woman’s best efforts – waving her hands, running with that panicked “Goddamnit NOTICE ME!” lack of decorum I know well as a former Ottawa winter bus rider, the bus pulled out just as she arrived at the stop, leaving her to wait for the next one.
I didn’t think about it. I slowed, rolled down my window and said, “I don’t know you. But it’s freezing and at least 20 minutes until the next bus. Do you want a ride to the transit station? It’s on my way.”
No hesitation. She got in. Grateful thanks. Comment that the bus had been early (shocking).
I dropped her off a seven minute drive (25 minute walk) later at the transit station and that was that.
It had no impact time-wise on my commute. I suspect it made hers infinitely better.
I had a momentary realization once she got in the car that I had PICKED UP A STRANGER! Horror movies flashed momentarily before my eyes (in 8:00 am rush hour traffic), until the other me sounded in with the counterpoint that, no, I had PICKED UP A NEIGHBOUR.
Welcome back to the Village. You know, that one it takes to raise our kids. Committed to common courtesy, simple kindness and compassion. And an acknowledgement that we really are all in this together.
I’d missed it. Maybe I’ve been missing my perspectacles of late, and haven’t been looking. Cynicism and the assumption that, well, everyone’s looking out for themselves, has jaded me in recent years.
That moment, along with others in the past month, have made me realize that compassion doesn’t have to be huge.
As I alluded to in my post last month, in my youth I thought big, but marriage, and kids, and mortgage, and, well LIFE, had a way of … focussing me on, well, me and mine.
I knew the world was OUT THERE with HOARDS OF HUMANITY all OOZING NEED. I worried if I decided to care about SOMETHING beyond what is in my most immediate focus, I might need to care about EVERYTHING.
But I realized it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Because I don’t have to fix everything.
I can engage and show compassion in small, finite ways that can ripple out that make a difference far beyond me.
I can give a ride. I can donate clothes to cerebral palsy and the diabetes foundation. I can donate our crib to a new Canadian family. I can give $10 to the organization I once gave HOURS to and that I still ardently believe in. I can read that extra book with my child. I can stop blogging and hang with her watching Barbie on the couch, because she wants me to engage and be with her in her world. I can mentor a student. I can watch my neighbour’s grandson when she needs help.
Millions of people doing similar small pieces add up to change.
Like #1000Speak.

Ugliest thing pic from here. Other credits for awesome women on the pics!
I’ve spent the last month seeing compassion everywhere. Because I was looking for it.
It has done wonders both for my general perspective on life and for my consciously realizing when I can jump in and, well, give a little bit.
And the Internet – even outside this #1000Speak blast of awesome – is chalk full of good.
Like the Kindness Blog:
Or Huff Post:
Or how about Kid President:
Look for the good. Because it’s there.
Last night, I came across this 48 word post.
I wish I could say so much with so little.
Undo indifference. Compassion indeed.
Then this morning, I was coming out of three hours of focussed policy effort, deep in descriptions of how policy developers need to ensure various lenses are taken into account: gender-based analysis lens, small business lens … You could lose yourself in re-examining policy through lens after lens after lens (seniors lens, mental health lens…). All important, but where does it stop? And what are we actually trying to get at?
Ultimately we’re striving for fairness. Understanding and incorporation of different perspectives. And then I pondered viewing things through a compassion lens. Does it oversimplify? Of course. Equity issues aren’t about compassion. But moving back to the individual level, I think compassion should guide us all when we look at the world and determine how we choose to participate in it. Each decision we make, no matter how small, can ripple out. So if we can all consciously take a moment to, where possible, choose compassion, even in tiny measures, if many of us do so, all those ripples create the wave that might start something incredible.
So I will choose where possible to be consciously compassionate and hope that either one of my ripples starts a wave, or that my small ripple joins with, say #1000 others and creates something wonderful.

Credits: freeocean pic and ripple pic.
This is my voice and addition to #1000Speak. Share yours.
I believe this is how the world can change. Each person picking up their little baton and carrying it as far as they can. Beautiful
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Thanks Martha – I hope, and choose to believe, this is how it works too.
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I get pretty disheartened sometimes, until I do research for something I’m writing that requires studying history and then I see how things have slowly improved on more than one level for most of the people in the world. It’s just slow. I guess we don’t really live long enough to effect those great world changes we imagine are in our power when we’re 17.
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Oh goodness! If I could have effected the changes I imagined for the world when I was 17! Kumbaya!
But I do agree from a historical perspective you can see progress, it’s just very difficult at times from one’s personal reality to appreciate that against however the world has gone or done wrong on any particular day.
That said, 17-year-old me would have just gone zap and fixed it all!
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You wouldn’t have had to. I would have gotten there first. There would probably be a lot of stuff I missed, though, in spite of being all powerful… 🙂
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Well, even for all-knowing 17-year-old me, I have to say, it’s a load of my shoulders to know that you’d have gotten Nirvana off to such a good start so that by the time I came along we’d be just be fine-tuning things. So much less stressful – and more time to enjoy life! And isn’t that just what we all want to leave for the next generation? So thanks!
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No problem. It was nothing. 😉
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Hey again – found a quote today that made me think of this back and forth last night and had to share: “I’m a recovering higher power: I deeply want to fix and rescue everyone, but can’t.” – Anne Lamott.
Made me smile.
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Brilliant.
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Just one little act can have so many ripples. If only everyone would create a ripple.
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Agreed! It’s easy to forget how the little actions we do – both good and bad – ripple out. I’m working on being more conscious about it.
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You helped create a ripple, and it’s reached my site. Many blessings to you. I’m glad you gave that woman a ride. Who knows how that one action played out during her day.
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For one thing, she didn’t stand freezing at the bus stop for 20+ minutes. I saw “me” and the many times I’ve experienced that utter helplessness in her run. I’d have wanted someone to stop for me – and wished it many a time it never happened.
Blessings to you too – so glad to have met you and found your writings.
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Likewise. Commuting is one of the prime evils of the working life. Especially this time of year.
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Helena’s post yesterday said something about how the world can be as small as the reach of your arm, and I just thought YES! And this post, Louise, shows PRECISELY how that works. How wonderful. You ARE THE VILLAGE *grins*
And like you, I am LOVING seeing how far this little ripple of my post, chucked into the pool of the Blogosphere, where it inspired Yvonne, is going. AH-MAZED by it 😀
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As small as the reach of your arm – I like that!
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I loved it. Helena has such a way with words 🙂
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Yes.
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Each drop counts…yes every ripple can start a wave…all you have to do is do your bit. Spread love, cheer, compassion and do good! The world will change!
Feeling so grateful today to be a part of #1000Speak 🙂
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Three cheers for everyone doing their bit. Thanks so much for the visit. I too am feeling very grateful to be part of #1000Speak.
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Every voice no matter how small matters. Everything big started off with something small. Let’s hope #1000Speak leads to something great!
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Agreed! I am interested to see what happens next with this. At least for me and my perspective I think it’s already been a success.
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“I can engage and show compassion in small, finite ways that can ripple out that make a difference far beyond me.”
I so share your sentiment Louise. Loved your post:) Thank you for writing it and reminding us all that compassion comes “in all sizes”.
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Thanks! I certainly have to remind myself of at and not discount small actions – or actions that are easy for me to do but that might matter more for others.
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Here’s to our collective ripples. I love this movement so much. Beautiful post!
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Thanks so much! And agreed. It’s a great day on the interwebs 🙂
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One random act of kindness at a time! I love how you spontaneously offered help!!
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Thanks! I’m hoping it won’t feel quite so odd to me in future…
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Oh, I’m so glad I found you! You had me at “perspectacles.” Actually, you hooked me before then, but the word made me grin from ear to ear and say, “OMG…me, too!”
You mentioned how you spent the last month looking for and noticing compassion. That act in itself has been the power surge to extra-spark the message today.
Thank you so much for hopping over to my site today…it led me right to you!
Michelle
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I sadly cannot claim credit for perspectacles, but suspect had the exact same reaction as you when I read it, it sums up what I think I’m missing much of the time in the busy of life.
I’m glad to have found you too. You have such a well written blog!
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Thank you, Louise! I hope you are having a wonderful Sunday 🙂
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You didn’t pick up a stranger, you picked up a neighbor! Wow. Do you know how many times I’ve thought of people I’ve helped as total strangers? But you’re right, they’re neighbors and that change in perspective is huge. I agree that compassion is everywhere if we look for it. This #1000Speak movement has given me so much hope for our world.
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It’s funny – I think having kids has started to switch me back to thinking about neighbourhood. I grew up knowing and playing with all the neighbour kids. Then my twenties early adulthood was not like that – apartment buildings where I didn’t know any of my neighbours. But now that’s changing again – and in a good way.
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I failed at compassion on Friday, in real life. An older man was sitting in a car on the side of the road on an especially chilly Carolina morning (in the teens). There was heavy traffic. I got a glimpse of his face as I drove by. I hoped someone would help. As I got to the next traffic light, I couldn’t see his car. I don’t know if he got it going again, or if someone stopped to help, or it was just out of sight.
I thought about him all day.
My hope is that no matter how compassionate we feel we are, and I feel I am, that compassion becomes more and more of a default than a decision.
I hope next time, I’ll act the way you did on a chilly morning.
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Eli – I have certainly been the person to not pull over many times. And I think there are many reasons I still wouldn’t (not sure if I would for a man; not sure if I would with my kids in the car etc…). Our minds work the way they work and figuring out in the moment how you want to act in conjunction with those thoughts…? I hope someone helped him too, commit to be helpful another time – but don’t beat yourself up too bad.
Thanks for stopping by!
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Always great to be here, Louise.
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YES to your ripples and to the waves that they ultimately inspire. I think about fairness a lot and love this. Here’s also to taking a neighbor to the bus when she needs a ride and not having it be anything but awesome.
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Thanks Kristi – I think what I loved most about the whole #1000Speak process is that it got me thinking about what small things I could do and get out of the frame of mind that compassion needs to be huge to make an impact.
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I love this whole ripple effect or pay it forward philosophy….boy, kindness and compassion is everything! I tell my boys all of the time…”if you don’t do anything else, just be kind!” I see this every day with my special needs son. The middle school kids are so good to him and that is the greatest blessing ever….I only pray that my other boys (and girl) will pass on that kindness to other children with disabilities.
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I love the message you give your kids to, above all, be kind. And I’d actually welcome your input for a situation I’m currently having with my 5-year-old daughter and a developmentally challenged (the school is purposely vague on the issue so I don’t know what it is) boy in her class. I’ll message you and would love any guidance you have. Because I want her to both be kind while clearly communicating her message and I’m currently at a bit of a loss.
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Hi Louise! I got your message and will send you an email. These situations are never easy!
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Thanks, Louise and commenters. My compassion challenge at the moment is definitely within arm’s reach. Tomorrow it is my daughter’s birthday and I am struggling to get her party organised. I have a chronic illness and have had a broken foot over the last couple of months and then she has so much on that it”s also hard to find a gap. She even has cubs tomorrow night but I’ll try to turn that into a bit of a party and she’ll take cupcakes for class while I put my thinking cap on xx Rowena
PS IN Australia, we have just started our new school year so it’s a difficult time to organise a party and she has missed out for awhile so I’ve got to get something together and just something. xx Rowena
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First off, happy birthday to your daughter! I feel for you and the parent angst to “make it happen”. That said, it sounds like you have a plan. Also, don’t discount the importance of you (“just” mom) and immediate family also making her feel special.
I know it’s not age-comparable, but my eldest is an early October baby, so when she started junior kindergarten (September here) we had to host one of the first “school” birthday parties of the year. It was equal parts weird and awkward. I wrote the teacher, asking who her friends were (after 3 weeks!). The response: she has lots of friends!. My response: Super! If you had to invite, say, five(?) to a party, who would they be….?
One showed. We’d also invited the neighbour and her daycare kids (total: 6!) so she had a blast, but I certainly noticed and tried not to make more of it than what it was (for the record, all the no-shows, came to party the next year – so the teacher was right, just too soon). But I did make a school mom friend (of the one that showed up) for what I hope will be the duration of elementary school.
All that to say – may your daughter have a wonderful birthday!
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Thanks so much for that, Louise. I instantly feel better. We’re going to take some party food to cub scouts while we finallise “the plan” and she’ll be taking cupcakes to school. She is also lucky because the radio station is coming to school to do their breakfast show so hopefully they might do something for her birthday. They should. I am starting to move from overwhelmed to excited. We’re about to go to the shops to get the toppings for her popcakes xx Rowena
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And there you go Rock Star Mama! You got this! Best birthday wishes for an awesome day!
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What a beautifully written post. And thank you for the kind words (no pun intended).
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My pleasure! Thank you for visiting!
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I haven’t been here to read nearly enough lately. Where does time go…? Honestly.
I LOVE that you picked up that woman. I definitely would have had the same oh shit moment about being behind the bus (I am ALWAYS behind a bus, by the way – it’s like my curse) and I definitely would have panicked about picking up a stranger. But when did the world stop seeing others as neighbors and start seeing others as strangers, anyway? It didn’t used to be that way.
I have seen others put lists of the small and everyday tangible things they can do to be more compassionate and I love it. It takes the “ohmygoditstoohuge” factor away and makes compassionate action something we can all do.
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Thank you so much for the kind words Lisa! As for where the time goes? Let me know if you find it! Agreed re: taking the “ohmygoditstoohuge” factor away – I think that’s the only way I can not feel overwhelmed and focus on small doable portions.
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Each person’s ripples will ultimately turn into tides of change and thank you for your beautiful post here about compassion.
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Thank you for your kind words and visiting!
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It must have made that woman’s day, that day. Don’t you think so? Thought it might be a tiny gesture, I am sure it would leave an imprint on her the rest of her life and make her more compassionate towards others. See the ripple you created and it just spreads. Thank you for dropping by on my blog and for that sweet comment. Otherwsise how would I have read this wonderful post?
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I know if would have made MY day – given there’s been many a time I’ve been left to freeze at a bus stop after just missing a bus 🙂
Thanks for visiting back and the kind comment!
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Excellent post! I wish I would have known about Feb. 20th, but I can still add my voice. I have long believed and practiced that improving your own little corner of the world is the way to make a difference. If everyone did it, what a wonderful place this would be. I like to think most people are compassionate. I am not the type of person to attend rallys or get involved in large movements. I believe is small change in every day life everyday.
A cause near and dear to my heart is the teaching of creative writing in schools at a young age because creative writing, kids putting themselves in the shoes of others through the guise of character, is the only thing that allows kids to feel compassion and empathy other people. There is no better way to introduce it in a person’s life that I know about.
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