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Happy New Year!
We had a wonderful holiday here. Much family fun and celebration.
Skating in the street during an ice storm, exploring my childhood Lego collection, the continuation of the traditional passive-aggressive gift of 10,000 beads to the girl children in the family from their uncle, snuggling on the couch watching Home Alone and Rudolph…
Lots (and lots and lots) of time with the kids.
It is of these moments that memories are made. And I loved almost all of it.
But by this stage?
The introvert in me needs a bit of alone time. So while my husband heads back to work, I’ve taken the week off, put the kids in camp, and have FOUR DAYS TO MYSELF.
Yes, they are all gone. It’s just me. Alone.
Ahhhh.
My last post ended my “Songs for the Week” series for my dad. At New Year’s dinner on Sunday, when I mentioned my plan for the week, he suggested I do a whole other series about songs to do with solitude.
I suggested he might get his own blog.
Because there’s this neat thing called WordPress….
He declined.
But it’s a fun idea. So in the spirit of meeting half-way, here’s one more post – on his inspiration – to launch my week (okay, four days) of glorious solitude.
Let’s start with some Heart. Here’s 1987’s Alone:
My introvert ears have always heard this song differently than intended.
I know the lyrics are this:
Till now, I always got by on my own.
I never really cared until I met you.
And now it chills me to the bone.
How do I get you alone?
How do I get you alone?
What I hear?
How do I get to alone?
Currently? Apparently by booking holiday and putting the kids in camp.
They are pretty excited to see their friends. There’s a trip to Funhaven planned. My husband saves his holiday days for the summer when there’s more golf options. And I get to read.
EVERYBODY WINS.
Next, to give a nod to my Beatles’ fan of a dad for the inspiration, here’s 1963/4’s Don’t Bother Me. Wikipedia tells me it is the first song George Harrison wrote for The Beatles:
It’s about love drama, but I love his “I need to be alone to then be okay” vibe. I get that. The perfectionist in me also loves that this is “Take Ten” (original video went offline which referenced this. So perhaps this is take eleven?).
But if you yearn for a more polished PFO (please f__ off), how about Michael Jackson’s Leave Me Alone which was released in 1989.
I’m a child of the 80s, so this was the first song that popped into my head when I starting thinking on the theme.
However, if that’s not recent enough for you, I’ve spilt some ink here previously on my appreciation of Britney. Here’s Piece of Me, from 2007:
Granted, this is less “leave me alone” than an attempt (to quote one review) to “evoke the horror, the exhilaration and (finally) the boredom of [Spears’] overexamined life.”
But I have to say, I immediately loved it when I first heard it.
Another review commented that “the hypertreatment of the voice, the way it edges into the music, suggests that the price of fame is identify erasure.” I’m (clearly) not famous. I’m a career-oriented working mom of two young girls who also wants stuff for me and the things other than family that I care about. This song features on repeat in my car when I need to unwind. Because it resonates. I don’t GET superstardom. But I GET loss of identity with motherhood. And everyone in my life wanting everything from me right now. And the feeling of being judged (real, or not) when some of the balls I’m juggling fall. Or I relax for a bit and in doing so something gets missed and (unnecessary) drama ensues.
So with that said?
Let’s end with a proper homage to silence, which I feel I can truly OWN at this age and stage of my life. Because I sat through the movie. And got the cups. And the pillows. And the figurines.
And really, Poppy (that’s the Pink One), pretty much sums up my kids and how they respond to me telling them I want some alone time. I’m totally with Branch (the poor guy who is trying to sleep) in this moment.
Here’s Trolls and their take on Simon & Garfunkel’s 1964 classic The Sound of Silence:
Really, like Poppy, my kids are pretty adorable when they want to snuggle and keep me company as I’m trying to read.
Or suggest I might enjoy reading them a princess book instead.
But I’m really excited about my week alone.
After that, I will fully re-engage.
Because there’s no place I’d rather be than in my life.
Most of the time.
Hey parents! How do you carve our your time? Please share!
Baby Gates Out.
I’m a newlywed and we haven’t started a family yet but I can totally see myself doing this in the future. Us introverts really need that time to recharge. It’s so important. I definitely understand. Hope you enjoy your time 🙂
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Thanks very much! I’d never thought about booking time to do nothing before – but I did it this summer and felt so much better for it afterwards.
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Such a smart idea! When I take days off for no reason I sometimes call them mental health days lol
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Last year I was part of a professional development program that sent us on something called “Resilience Training” – basically we talked about tips for balance, self-care etc… I figure this is about self-care. But, yes, re: mental health days – that’s basically the idea!
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Wow, sounds like that was a great program. Self care is the best care.
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Thanks for suggesting these songs. I need to be alone sometimes too. It sounds like you had a lovely Christmas. Love that you suggested your father got his own blog and he immediately rejected the idea. Haha.
Suggesting music posts is always a good thing though. Enjoy your week.
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Thanks for the visit! I know how much you like music on your blog too so I’m glad you liked the post.
As for dad – he recently got an IPhone and joined Facebook. And does photography for fun. I think blogging might be in his future – just not yet.
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Yay for alone time ☺. Happy New year!
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Happy New Year to you too! May you find your alone time too 🙂
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4 days by yourself sounds AMAZING! I was totally peopled out after an intense day of visitors while at my in-laws’ house. They did an open house thing, which was great, except it meant 11 hours of nonstop people. Now we’re back home and although I can’t take the day off, working in my little office in the quiet is restorative. 🙂
Happy New Year! Here’s for more alone time!
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So far so good. Mid afternoon and still in my pyjamas. And all by myself. I calling Day 1 a success!
Hope you get a bit of restorative downtime too.
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Happy New year to you, sometime a little alone time is just super relaxing..
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Yes indeed! Thanks for visiting though 😉
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You’re Welcome!
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I have to say I’m a bit jealous of your alone time! I had a fantastic, family-filled vacation but, like you, always feel the need to “recharge” after so much visiting! Enjoy every minute – you deserve it!
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Thanks! And yes, I always feel the same – so when I can I try to book extra time off at the end of the holidays just for me. I’m getting my hair done tomorrow in the middle of the day!!! Wahoo!
So happy to hear your holidays were filled with so much good stuff too!
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Alone time is HUGE! I’m so glad that you get some. I’m in need of some now… we had a great visit with family in another state but all of the here and there and celebrating leaves me needing some of my own reflection time. I hope 2017 is a wonderful year for you and your family, Louise!
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So happy to hear that you had a great holiday with family and had a chance to connect with those you see less than you might wish to. But I (obviously) hear you about the need to recharge quietly after those moments. May you find some alone to do so and all the best for 2017!
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Great post, Louise! I always feel guilty when I am craving some alone time. Especially after the holidays…after all the visiting…the noise…the commotion. The sound of silence can feel so good…for a short time 😉
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I find the holidays just pretty much do me in at this age and stage of life so a week on my own to get over it is wonderful! I’m getting better as I move on in motherhood in figuring out my limits and when – and how – to carve out the space I need for me 🙂
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